In recent years, I've found myself reflecting on a question that resonates with many: "Why the institution of marriage?" It's a question that often leads to a shrug of the shoulders, yet it carries significant weight, particularly for today's youth. Many of them wonder: if marriage is merely a social expectation to stay together, why bother with it?
A couple of weeks ago, I lost my father-in-law. I remember the first time I met him, 25 years ago, and addressed him as "Uncle." He gently corrected me, saying, "From now on, it's Papa." Little did I know the profound impact of those words. Although life circumstances didn’t allow me to live with my in-laws frequently, a deep bond formed—one that mirrored the love and respect between a parent and child.
There are no words to fully capture the depth of loss when you lose a parent. It's as if a vacuum is created within you, one that no one else can fill. The strange thing is, the emotions are just as raw and overwhelming when you lose your parents-in-law as when you lose your biological parents. How can this be?
This is where the true essence of marriage reveals itself. It’s not just about two individuals coming together; it's about creating ties that bind entire families. Most of us are born into one family, but with open hearts, marriage allows us to be blessed with two.
As our elders move on to the next stage of their spiritual journeys, I hope we can hold onto these traditions and values that have a far deeper impact than we may realize. Marriage is much more than a social contract; it is a foundation for creating bonds that transcend time, teaching us the beauty of shared lives and extended family.
With Love and Gratitude to all parents.
So aptly expressed - thank you!
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